We are all short. we make mistakes. The interest of this blog is not how we treat our own weaknesses, but rather to deal with the shortcomings of others, more precisely to judge others.
Why do we judge?
The following information comes from Explore your mind:
- When a person has low self-esteem, she uses her judgment to put herself in a control position.
- Those who take the judgment of others lightly and do it just to hurt them lack empathy.
- When a person has emotional wounds, she judges others in order to project her own bitterness, sorrow and inner demons.
Perspective does not always correspond to reality
What we see may not be reality. Avoid the temptation to judge. "Put yourself in another person's place."
A young couple moves into a new neighborhood.
The next morning, while they were having lunch, the young woman saw her neighbor hanging the laundry outside.
"This linen is not very clean. she does not know how to wash properly. Maybe she's in need of a better laundry soap.
Her husband was staring at him without saying anything.
Whenever her neighbor suspended her to dry her clothes, the young woman made the same comments.
A month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, "Look, she finally learned to wash properly. I wonder who taught him that?
The husband replied, "I got up early this morning and I cleaned our windows."
What can we do to limit judgment?
Today 's blog is based on the Daily Stoic e – newsletter.
"When a stoic person sees that someone's son is messed up, he says to himself: if my son is fucking in the air and that it has an effect on me publicly, will I know what to do? appropriate to this challenge? What is the right – the Stoic One does not see the troubles in someone else as a chance for judgment or gossip, but as a reminder of where they may one day fall short of their duties as father, mother, aunt, uncle, etc. When a Stoic sees a stupid or ignorant teenager, he does not waste his time in scandal and indignation. ), then redouble efforts to be a good example for the people around them.
Watch this video featuring Stoïc Macus Aurelius from Wisdom for Life.
Forest Fire Leadership Challenge – digging a little further
- Think about the following questions:
- What is judging the weaknesses of others about us?
- How can we learn to observe and listen without letting our prejudices and judgments cloud our response?
- Can we ever be completely free from judgment?
- Consider reading Gabrielle Bernstein's book Judgment Detox.
Before judging anyone, look at this from Gabriellebernstein on Vimeo.
I leave you with an excerpt from the song "Man in the Mirror" by Glen Ballard and Siedah Garrett.
Man in the mirror *
I start with the man in the mirror
I ask him to change his habits
And no message could have been clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Look at yourself and make a change
Man in the Mirror © Warner / Chappell Music, Inc., Universal Music Publishing Group, BMG Rights Management
About the author:
Pam McDonald is a writer and publisher for BLM Wildland Fire Training and Workforce Development and a member of the NWCG Leadership Subcommittee. The expressions are those of the author.